I am a Change Therapist. This means I specialize in helping people through change they have chosen, and change that has chosen them. The irony of being a Change Therapist while undergoing a HUGE professional change is not lost on me. But looking beyond the irony, I found an opportunity ripe for collecting knowledge about lived experience with change. And now I can pass along what I've learned about change and how you can learn to embrace choosing change for yourself:
You are not unmotivated.
Every action (even inaction) has a motivation behind it. Therefore you are not unmotivated, you are just not connected to your motivation and your motivation is not connected to your goals.
Change is not linear.
There are four stages of change and you will cycle through them all multiple times. Change looks more like a corkscrew. You may be making a lap around the stages of change, but you are still moving upwards.
Change is not about "being your best"
Change is not about "fixing" yourself. You are worthy right now, as you are, and there is NOTHING you need to change to prove that. Change is not a destination, it is an evolution. The goal of choosing change is to evolve and move further into alignment with our values and our dreams.
Change is possible (and hard)
I stopped saying "I can't" this year. I started saying, "I can and I just haven't yet." or "I can and I don't want to" or "I can and I will". Change is possible. You can change. It's also okay to say "I don't want to" or "I don't have the capacity to right now". It's also okay to ask for help.
You do not have to do this alone. Ask for help.
I have a therapist too. She helped me choose sobriety, choose healthy relationships, choose to begin this new solo private practice. She helped me choose change by encouraging me to clarify my values, understand my motivation, and identify and overcome any challenges standing in my way. If you are ready to start your journey to change, contact me. I can help.